Spotting timewasters

[Pearl]

Hi ladies,
I have seen  that there are a lot of posts about the  timewasters.
Can someone of you give me informations on how to recognize a timewaster? However, if there is already a post which deal with, could you give me the link?
Thank you in advance.
Halina

[Sweet-Pleasure]

It's mostly about gut instinct, some guys will say all the right things at all the right times and gals who've been in the biz years can still get caught out but a few signs I would say are:

1) Not following your instructions.

This can be by texting you when you ask him to call, not confirming when you ask him to, not giving you info you request such as address etc.

2) Giving you more info than you need.

Sending 80 messages a day describing what he's going to do to you and how. Some guys are legit and get over excited but far more are just fantasists getting off on you reading their fantasies.

3) Asking too many questions.

That's normally a bad sign. Guys who call and ask you to describe yourself and your services can be just looking for something to jack off to.

4) Wanting to have a session somewhere unusual.

Anyone who wants to meet in public gets a big no stamp from me, it's a house, a hotel or not at all.

5) Anyone who asks for an over nighter out of the blue should be accepted with a pinch of salt.

Ditto for groups, couples and any other big money makers, especially if they haven't quite worked out all the details yet and will get back to you soon.


All these are from my personal experience and I'm sure other ladies will have more advice, some will have stories that contradict mine but hey ho, it's an odd biz with odder clients lol!

[Pearl]

Hi MissArcaBunny,
I feel that I have still to learn a lot about escorting.
Thank you so much for your prompt  answer.
Halina


 

[Friday]

Timewaster spotting is as much a practice thing and I assure you will get better as you go.

MissArcaBunny has put it perfectly so there's not much to add except to assure you spotting them will become a 6th sense. There are the odd exception and yes some guys will just say the wrong things and you say no when they were totally genuine. Unfortunately your safety and time comes first so that's just the way it is.

It really is an instinct you'll have what seems like a genuine call but for some reason somethings not right and sure enough minutes after the call they text to cancel..and you're like well that was just pointless lol 

The key is to stay in control of calls so you are asking the questions not them.

[Your Tera]

The key is to stay in control of calls so you are asking the questions not them.
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Oh, now THAT is another excellent, succinct and simple point. (She speaks from experience with all the questioners)

[EmilyJones]

Yes, that's a great summary, MissArcaBunny - if it's okay, I might transfer its contents (with credit) to the Articles section of this forum in a little while? Will give others the chance to post any other great tips here first, and then once we've got a good collection we can move it over so the thread can be more easily found and referred to when new newbies ask. It's a very important topic!

Oh, and shouldn't forget that there is a main page article on the topic with quotes from other sex workers on how to spot and avoid TWs, too.

(I totally agree about the outfits thing mentioned there; I don't do roleplay or costumes, so of course anyone who asks me for those is either silly or just trying to have a tedious wank down the phone, but even clients who request specific stockings, shoes, clothing etc are often just fantasists. To avoid wasting my time, I'll always tell them that we can discuss things like clothing when he gets here - if he's genuine, he has no reason to object to that, and if he's a timewaster he'll be disappointed that I'm not going to chat about sexy outfits on the phone. Win-win. )

[Rooby]

I think I would say that anyone who says 'Money's no object'  or who offers you over and above your going rate for no definite reason is a time waster. 

Some men will offer additional money to persuade you to offer extra services which is a try on and may or may not result in a booking - but if they just randomly round your rates up like they have so much money its irrelevant then (in my experience) they're ALWAYS just wasting your time...

R xx

[AngelaManchester]

I agree with all the above.  You will just get a 'feel' for it as you get more experienced, but Miss Arca Bunny covers the main points.

[River]

"What are you wearing? Tell me exactly"
&
"What sort of 'things' do you like to do?"

We here on the  SAAFE board aren't asking you that, on this thread 
but a timewaster will, via repeated texts and/or a phone call he tries to string things out.
Q. Any guesses what he's doing during this time?...
A. Stealing your time and also stealing money from performers who provide naughty calls for coin, by trying to get his rocks off for free.  grrrr!

You will pick up on the things we are talking about,
really quickly when you have a volume of calls / texts enquires. You will soon know who are the timewasters
and who are not. 

[amy]

Add anybody who says he's looking for a new regular lady and will definitely be making at least 5 three hour bookings a week (or whatever - these are the discount hunters)  .

Also anyone who earnestly tells you that he always has trouble with the ladies because his cock is so huge (he has to get condoms custom made, honest) and do you think you'll be able to handle it, and what will you do with it, etc etc. In fact I would include anybody who mentions his genitals (or God forbid, sends pictures  ).

Like everybody else says, it's a learning curve and everybody picks it up at different rates - don't feel bad if you spend at least a handful of occasions all dressed up and waiting for some prat who sounded so keen but doesn't show. We've all done it  .

[pandora]

Anyone that makes a booking politely and succinctly and THEN starts asking questions. Will never show, has just tried to lure you in.

Any texts that start "hi hun/babe/sexy". Even if they do ring when you ask them to , (highly unlikely) they will never book, having spammed it to 50 others looking for sexy chat.

[Pearl]

Dear ladies,
a big thank you to all of you for the answers.
Halina

[strawberry]

....anyone who says "Just answer one more question", or who insists they can't phone because their girlfriend/children are in the next room.

[Ellie_e]

If someone is serious about booking you, they will usually suggest at least 2 out of  day/time, venue and booking length.  Genuine clients also usually read your website and have no problems following your booking procedures.

Timewaster hallmarks (not always, but red flags)

- anyone who asks questions when the answer is clearly on your website (be it about your looks, services, fees or location)
- anyone who is vague about a booking
- anyone who babbles on about how much they value trust/honesty/openness/connections
- anyone who says they are looking for a new regular
- anyone who says they want an overnight or 4+ hour appointment for a first booking
- anyone who tries to get you into drawn-out email, text or phone conversations
- anyone who goes into extensive details about what they want to do during the booking (fantasists)
- anyone who makes excuses about why they cannot do something you ask (e.g. make booking through adultwork, send you a hotel room number, travel fees in advance)
- be careful of guys who say they want social bookings to 'get to know you' etc. beforehand - while some of these guys are genuine and a 1-2 hr social booking is a good chance for them to test the waters before seeing you for longer, I do feel that the majority are timewasters.
- anyone who refuses or is reluctant to give required information about themselves or the booking

Personally I find the fantasist timewasters the worst, as they can be the hardest to spot!

[Dionne]

Just to add - anyone who wants you to be a travel companion bearing in mind they've never seen you before! X